I do like the flower crown idea though.

I think I’m coming down with something– my nose is running, my throat is sore, and I’m super lethargic. But I went to the gym anyway. We’ll see if that was a good idea or not tomorrow…

Actually I feel a little better after dragging myself through a slow-ish but solid 3 miles on the treadmill. Hungry though! I’m still experimenting with saving breakfast for after my workout.

(tw: weight loss and wedding crap follows)

Plans for the wedding are rapidly crystallizing (omg stress) and things that were very abstract 2 months ago are now much more real. Hello, Wedding Industrial Complex!

One thing that’s popped up for me– without anyone bringing it up, even, this is all me here– is wondering if I should try to lose weight/grow my hair/otherwise change my appearance for the wedding. All of the sudden I’ve somehow internalized the idea that I need to look like one of them waifish wedding dress models with long tousled hair and a flower crown.

As far as I can tell, pre-wedding weight loss is 1) temporary; 2) non-health focused; and 3) oddly not about the husband-to-be but rather for impressing other women and getting ‘good’ pictures.

Of course, looking at it critically isn’t helping much to chase away the feeling that it’s something I ought to do. My partner likes how I look now, I think I look fine in pictures right now, but it’s just "what is done".

Maybe one of the plusses of this short engagement is that I won’t have too much time to worry about it…

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12 Responses to I do like the flower crown idea though.

  1. Cheyanne says:

    I love the flower crown idea. And flowers look amazing in ALL lengths of hair. :)

    As for losing weight/growing your hair out, well……..that’s up to you BUT I always say, if he proposed to you then he probably loves and appreciates you just as you are. Spend this time focusing on being happy and excited about the next stage in your life instead of trying to fit into some sort of “ideal” for some good pictures. But that’s just my opinion! :)

  2. Julie says:

    Just be yourself – if you are happy how you look then why stress? Weddings can get totally out of control and lead to high blood pressure all round. Hope you can avoid all that.

  3. I did the invitations and programs for two friends’ wedding and her mom was injecting all kinds of drama and making it about her. What I told them now works for you as well, “In a year, no one will remember what went ‘right’ or what went ‘wrong’ at the wedding. People won’t remember who they sat with at dinner or what you were wearing. But you two will still be married, and that’s what matters.”

  4. Gingerzingi says:

    I can’t have an opinion on someone else’s weight loss-related decisions – I mean really, there are so many personal and individual facets that go into that kind of decision that I can’t say, “I think you should…” But I can relate my experience fwiw. At every major milestone in my life I used to think I should lose weight for it, that my life would somehow be ruined if I experienced it while fat. Weddings are huge for that sort of thinking, because there are so many photos documenting the event. Well, like every other time I resolved to lose weight for something, I didn’t. And I looked beautiful. And the photos are wonderful. It was all perfect, and now it’s 33 years later and my life hasn’t been ruined and my marriage is awesome, and how much I weighed on that one particular day means nothing and less than nothing.

    For full honesty, though, I also have to add that it’s 33 years and at least 80 pounds later – I WISH I was as “fat” now as I was on my wedding day :-)

    So – I agree with all the other comments. But now I’m pretty sure you MUST wear the flower crown.

    • G says:

      Thanks for this. :) Now, what kind of flowers? Peonies? Lilies? It’ll be in August…

      • Gingerzingi says:

        I’m not sure what blooms in August. My wedding was also in August, but my favorite flower is carnation, so that wasn’t hard to find. The florist was appalled that I wanted a carnation bouquet; she thought it was cheap or tacky. So she threw in some roses, free! LOL I don’t really like roses, I actually love carnations.

        Our color for the wedding was a lavendery purple, and the wedding cake had icing lilacs on it – gorgeous. Don’t know if lilacs are available that late in the summer, but if I had it to do over again, I’d try to get some, if only because they smell so wonderful. Not suitable for a crown, though, clearly the optimal solution for that is DAISIES. Preferably Gerber Daisies, full on hippie mode.

      • Daisies would be in bloom (although maybe a bit cliche for a flower crown, but could be easily pulled off with some greens in there). Maybe throw in something else for a splash of color, and you’ll be set!

    • G says:

      The flower for August is gladiolus, which is great– I love glads– but they’re not very well suited for a crown. :-/ Zinnias? Sunflowers? I actually love carnations, too! I’m a sucker for old-fashioned carnation perfumes as well.

      I think google is on to me… I googled “August flowers in season” and got a bunch of wedding pages. Suggesting irises and daffodils? Uh, no?

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