After yesterday’s experience, today I prepared for the cold (it was even colder this morning, 5ºF!) I layered my gym clothes under my work clothes and added an extra wool pullover under my sweater. Thanks to this extra prep, I got out of the house late and nearly missed my train– but being just-in-time meant I didn’t really need it anyway, though it added some stress.
Today’s very quickly filling up with meetings so I was glad to be able to peel off a couple layers and get right to my workout and get that out of the way– a short 30 minute trot on the treadmill, 2.68mi. Someone had turned the TV in front of me to Fox News and watching that was like watching a whole ‘nother world.
For years now I’ve set aside a small pot of money to donate to a few causes that I feel strongly about. I kind of feel like it’s the least I can do. I was raised in a strict tithing (10% before taxes!), "if it doesn’t hurt you’re not giving enough" kind of family, and although I’m not religious now I still have that mindset– and frankly, I have more than I need and I feel like I could and should always be giving more.
Now, I asked my husband about this a month or so ago, thinking that he might like to also set aside some money for charity (the two of us together should be able to double it, right?) I found his answer to be shocking and disappointing: he wasn’t interested, he already has too much financial uncertainty (i.e. underwater condo) and didn’t feel like he should give. We haven’t really managed to merge our finances yet (and I’m not sure we ever will, at least until we own a home with both our names on the mortgage) so I’m still free to do my own thing.
This makes me a little bit grumpy; his financial uncertainty is my financial uncertainty (in my eyes, if maybe not in the eyes of the law? I dunno) and he certainly doesn’t hold back from ‘treating himself’ when he wants to, either. We definitely have some different ideas about the appropriate amount of frugality in our household…
It’s probably a good compromise though; he tempers my bleeding-heart, sell-everything-I-have-and-become-some-kind-of-atheist-nun tendencies, and I can encourage him to be more generous for causes he cares about. One thing on our to-do list is to put together a joint budget, so we can hash this out then.